Day 11
"What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Can you run an errand? Give a back rub? A foot massage? Choose a gesture that says, "I cherish you" and do it with a smile."
Simple. I went and faxed a few things today that needed to be done ASAP. Made him lunch. I even took his class A's to the drycleaner. What made today even better was he showed his appreciation. As nice as it may be to do something for your spouse, it is nice to show your gratitude when it's done.
Dare of the day...Completed.
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Sunday, January 10, 2010
Love is unconditional
Day 10
"Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse- something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else. Wash his car. Clean the kitchen. Buy his favorite dessert. Fold the laundry. Demonstarte love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage."
Today, I took my hunny buns to a restaurant we both enjoy. I ordered him his favorite drink and his favorite appetizer while he was waiting for a parking space (it's incredible how long it takes to find a spot!!), as soon as he came in and found me at our table the food and drink was ready and waiting :). What's funny is that I do this kind of stuff daily anyway because it makes my love happy and I enjoy seeing him enjoy it.
Dare of the day...Completed.
"Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse- something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else. Wash his car. Clean the kitchen. Buy his favorite dessert. Fold the laundry. Demonstarte love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage."
Today, I took my hunny buns to a restaurant we both enjoy. I ordered him his favorite drink and his favorite appetizer while he was waiting for a parking space (it's incredible how long it takes to find a spot!!), as soon as he came in and found me at our table the food and drink was ready and waiting :). What's funny is that I do this kind of stuff daily anyway because it makes my love happy and I enjoy seeing him enjoy it.
Dare of the day...Completed.
Saturday, January 9, 2010
Love makes good impressions
Day 9
"Think of a specific way you'd like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them."
Oh I greeted him alright :) 'Nuff said
Dare of the day...Completed
"Think of a specific way you'd like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them."
Oh I greeted him alright :) 'Nuff said
Dare of the day...Completed
Friday, January 8, 2010
Love is not jealous
Day 8
"Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he recently enjoyed."
Well, I didn't actually burn the list, I showed it to the shredder instead! It felt really good too. It seems that now days people focus so much more on the negative side of things that they forget all the positive that still exists. I have caught myself thinking that way and it doesn't make me feel good at all. Matter of fact, I feel pretty crummy!!! I spoke to Logan today after dinner and expressed my joy for him. This man is BRAVE! He went off to Airborne school and had never jumped out of a airplane and now he's a pro! What many people don't know is the military doesn't make many things fun but if you can look at the beneficial side, anything can be turned into something exciting. He was dreading this school for a few reasons, the first one being he's not near his wife and children. He doesn't feel at ease when he's far from home with nobody to confide in, can you blame him? The second reason being he's around these "higher ups" that look at all the soldiers as dumb ass' that have just entered into the military no matter what your rank is. Logan stuck through the grueling three weeks in Georgia and graduated with his wings and I am SOO proud of him. He needed to hear it too. It's like telling him I love him although he knows I do, but to be reminded of it never gets old.
Dare of the day...Completed
"Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he recently enjoyed."
Well, I didn't actually burn the list, I showed it to the shredder instead! It felt really good too. It seems that now days people focus so much more on the negative side of things that they forget all the positive that still exists. I have caught myself thinking that way and it doesn't make me feel good at all. Matter of fact, I feel pretty crummy!!! I spoke to Logan today after dinner and expressed my joy for him. This man is BRAVE! He went off to Airborne school and had never jumped out of a airplane and now he's a pro! What many people don't know is the military doesn't make many things fun but if you can look at the beneficial side, anything can be turned into something exciting. He was dreading this school for a few reasons, the first one being he's not near his wife and children. He doesn't feel at ease when he's far from home with nobody to confide in, can you blame him? The second reason being he's around these "higher ups" that look at all the soldiers as dumb ass' that have just entered into the military no matter what your rank is. Logan stuck through the grueling three weeks in Georgia and graduated with his wings and I am SOO proud of him. He needed to hear it too. It's like telling him I love him although he knows I do, but to be reminded of it never gets old.
Dare of the day...Completed
Love believes the best
Day 7
"For todays dare, get two sheets of paper. On the first one, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with the negative things on the second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic."
(This dare was done yesterday and I never got to post it)
I took two sheets of paper and have them with me here. This specific dare was somewhat harder than expected. I can be very honest but I don't want to feel like I'm complaining about my husband because all his attributes, good and bad, make him who he is. I still love him regardless.
For this dare, I thanked my husband for his motivation. We are a family that has been through some muddy water but because of his motivation to keep us together and in one piece, I am grateful.
Dare of the day...completed
"For todays dare, get two sheets of paper. On the first one, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with the negative things on the second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic."
(This dare was done yesterday and I never got to post it)
I took two sheets of paper and have them with me here. This specific dare was somewhat harder than expected. I can be very honest but I don't want to feel like I'm complaining about my husband because all his attributes, good and bad, make him who he is. I still love him regardless.
For this dare, I thanked my husband for his motivation. We are a family that has been through some muddy water but because of his motivation to keep us together and in one piece, I am grateful.
Dare of the day...completed
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Love Is not Irritable
Day 6
"Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life."
A tough circumstance that I have recently come across was finding out that once again my husband would be deployed. Now, I must say that this is a very short deployment and he's going to Korea (South) which is a green zone for Americans, so there is no real danger and it's only for 2 months. I should be grateful he's not deploying to Afghanistan, right?!?! WRONG. My point is he is still leaving, period! What made todays dare so hard for me was that I found out once again he will be gone on our ANNIVERSARY! I know the Army has no control over our special dates throughout the year but I mean DANG! It never fails, he leaves and it always falls under a "special" day for our family. I was simply irritated. Not at Logan but at the situation. When I get irritated about something I tend to vent aloud for Logan to hear and subsequently he thinks I'm angry at him....That's NOT what I am doing darnit, I promise. So I guess I failed todays dare but it was completely unintentional.
As far as a list in concerned, I don't believe I have any wrong motivations that need to be released from my life. I tend to mind my own business unless someone has come to me to talk, by then I will offer suggestions but I don't like telling people what to do. Besides, my motivations are different than the next Jill, Jane or Jodi's. I would much rather focus on my childrens upbringing and my husband, they are my number one. As a matter of fact I think I have finally reached some people to understand that. I love my friends, I love my family, I love my life.
Dare of the day...completed.
"Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life."
A tough circumstance that I have recently come across was finding out that once again my husband would be deployed. Now, I must say that this is a very short deployment and he's going to Korea (South) which is a green zone for Americans, so there is no real danger and it's only for 2 months. I should be grateful he's not deploying to Afghanistan, right?!?! WRONG. My point is he is still leaving, period! What made todays dare so hard for me was that I found out once again he will be gone on our ANNIVERSARY! I know the Army has no control over our special dates throughout the year but I mean DANG! It never fails, he leaves and it always falls under a "special" day for our family. I was simply irritated. Not at Logan but at the situation. When I get irritated about something I tend to vent aloud for Logan to hear and subsequently he thinks I'm angry at him....That's NOT what I am doing darnit, I promise. So I guess I failed todays dare but it was completely unintentional.
As far as a list in concerned, I don't believe I have any wrong motivations that need to be released from my life. I tend to mind my own business unless someone has come to me to talk, by then I will offer suggestions but I don't like telling people what to do. Besides, my motivations are different than the next Jill, Jane or Jodi's. I would much rather focus on my childrens upbringing and my husband, they are my number one. As a matter of fact I think I have finally reached some people to understand that. I love my friends, I love my family, I love my life.
Dare of the day...completed.
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
Love is not Rude
So, I decided to take a few weeks off from the Love/Dare (and yes it's allowed) due to SO many things happening in mine and my families lives. Besides the obvious Xmas and New Year, my youngest son Connor turned three!!! I only had a few weeks of winter break before the Spring semester started and I truly wanted to spend every moment with my boys, focusing on them, while Logan was working.
Day 5
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him to be irritated with you. You must do so without attacking him or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.
The three irritations:
1. I over-analyze EVERYTHING.
2. I'm stubborn
3. (this ones funny) I ALWAYS end up with the sheets and blankets in the morning and it honestly irritates him =/
I was expecting worse but I'm glad these are things i can try to work on.
Dare of the Day....Completed
Day 5
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him to be irritated with you. You must do so without attacking him or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.
The three irritations:
1. I over-analyze EVERYTHING.
2. I'm stubborn
3. (this ones funny) I ALWAYS end up with the sheets and blankets in the morning and it honestly irritates him =/
I was expecting worse but I'm glad these are things i can try to work on.
Dare of the Day....Completed
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